I was excited to read Starshine Roshell’s article “Divorce
Coach in Your Corner?” which addresses divorce coaching and the coach’s
important role in the divorce landscape. Divorce coaching is similar to life
coaching, except that it helps people around the experience of going through a
divorce.
Roshell mentions that it’s funny to apply the idea of a
coach — who typically helps people “do” things — to the deliberate “undoing” of
a thing: a marriage. Let me correct and clarify that argument by saying that
the elements of developing someone while they are simultaneously dissolving
something is simply on the same continuum. It’s called “change.” And change is
exactly what a coach facilitates in her/ his client.
A coach is a catalyst for change. Never should a coach share
the same bed as a therapist. Different, different, different! A coach builds
like an architect vs. a therapist who deals with the past. The beauty of
coaching is that the coach believes that the client already has the answers,
and these answers are teased out through strategic questioning.